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The 7 Mangoes That Fell Off Mami’s Tree. Mango #1

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“Cumple con lo tuyo” (English translation:  “Fulfill that which is yours”) For mami, the thing that makes us miserable is NOT that we try to  keep up with the Joneses (or Gonzalezes).  She says that our problem is that we try to control the Joneses, and then judge them when they fail to meet our […]

ACTS that MATTER: Act 1. Be Honest

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ACT ONE: BE HONEST Healing begins with honesty. Without it, healing is impossible. It is the act exposing ourselves without distractions or inhibitions. For me, honesty has been the most difficult act, because my life has been an act—a façade. I have spent many years honing skills of deception, keeping my truths a secret. I […]

ACTS that MATTER: Act 2. Identify Resources

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ACT TWO: IDENTIFY RESOURCES Once we have been honest with ourselves, we can move on to the next act of healing: The identification of resources. Before we can reach out for help, we must know where to find it. The second act of healing is to identify resources. The identification of informational resources is an […]

ACTS THAT MATTER: Act 5. Participate

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ACT 5: PARTICIPATE The day you call a program, join a group, enter therapy and say “I need help.” You have made a declaration to yourself and the universe that you are ready to begin the work of healing. Participation in our healing is imperative. Once we have been honest with ourselves, and identified resources, […]

ACTS THAT MATTER: Act 4. Plan

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ACT FOUR: PLAN The act of planning optimizes the benefits yielded by our acts of honesty, identification of resources, and reaching out for help. It gives these other acts of healing direction. It also memorializes in print our commitment to healing. Healing does not happen over night; and the act of planning helps delineate our […]

ACTS THAT MATTER: Act 3. Reach Out

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ACT 3. REACH OUT FOR HELP Being honest and identifying resources are the first two acts in healing. The third is reaching out for help. Our honesty accompanied by information about where, how, and who can help remains still unless we reach out for the help of others. Reaching out for help is an act […]

ACTS THAT MATTER: Act 7. Feel!

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ACT 7:  FEEL! A commitment to feeling our feelings, passions, desires, and wants are the fuel for change, transformation, and clarity.  We must desire something before you can see it, obtain it.  For example, before we can have freedom, love, healing, there must be a desire for them.  Feelings are like magnets.  They can repel, […]

ACTS THAT MATTER: Act 8. Gratitude

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ACT 8: GRATITUDE A commitment to feeling gratitude is the gateway to healing. Anger, sorrow, rage, bitterness, sadness, and fear are all on the road, but without gratitude the road ends just short of complete recovery. Gratitude tempers all the other feelings uncovered-discovered-recovered, whatever the case may be. It is the feeling that contains all […]

ACTS THAT MATTER: Act 6. Be Accountable

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Act 6: BE ACCOUNTABLE Finding a person, or a group of people, that will hold us accountable for our healing efforts is the sixth act that matters.  Now that we have been honest with ourselves about our ailments and sought help from the resources available in the community, we must create a mechanism for accountability. […]

ACTS THE MATTER: Act 9. Think Positive

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ACT 9: THINK POSITIVE If gratitude is the gateway to transformation, thinking positively is the road map. Envisioning the road map and infusing it with positivism is necessary for healing. Our thoughts being on the healing journey will vary: they can be positive, indifferent, negative, incredulous, and so on. Negative thoughts will create obstacles, and […]

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